About Me

I am a drag queen trapped in a woman’s body, a former vegan and a recovering EDNOS (eating disorder not otherwise specified), a certified personal trainer, and a twenty-something trying to make peace with her inner thirteen year old girl. Join me on my journey from disorder to nutrition, from depression to joyfulness, from addiction to freedom, and from injury to health.

18 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Is there anyway I could get your e-mail address or that you could shoot me an e-mail? I think we come from almost identical backgrounds, and I was actually just toying with the idea of going Vegan until I stumbled across the Whole 30 and then your blog. I’d really like to talk to you about your experiences with both. I’ve been fighting with ED recovery and finding a balanced way of eating for years.

  2. LOVE…LOVE…LOVE reading your story (you wrote on the plane)
    Your story could be mine…. Except I am still obsess with food and afraid of loosing control and wanting to count calories..:-(
    As a matter of facte I am a flight attendant, on sick leave because of my ED….:-(
    I live my life hiding from friends and family because of my ED.
    I do primal / paleo fairly strict but keep falling off (like 2 big chocolat bars yesterday :-((

    Thank you for sharing and letting me beleive “there is hope”.
    All the best to you.

    • Thank you so much for your comment, Chantal! I know how hard it can be to live a life that’s full of light when you’re stuck in the darkness that is ED. Just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel–you may have to struggle for it, but there are people out there who are rooting for you. If you ever need a friend or someone to talk to you, you can always contact me. Stay strong & stay hungry. You got this, my friend.

  3. beautifully written my friend, always speak from the heart, you / we are healing naturally, findng out connection with the world, and helping to heal the world in the process, stay strong, stay positive, stay paleo….

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  5. Hey, Miss Skinny Genes 😉 My name is Ines Subashka and I am a strength and conditioning coach from Bulgaria, and the owner of http://www.inspiredfitstrong.com and https://www.facebook.com/InesSubashkaInspiredFitStrong. I read your post about why you are not vegan( http://inmyskinnygenes.com/2013/09/02/why-im-not-a-vegan-part-3-but-i-supplement/) and I was wondering if you’d like to give an interview for my blog. I’d like the topic to be about your experience with being a vegan, how you felt, some changes you noticed and what made you change your decision. Something like a comparison between both lifestyles.


  6. I love reading your blog and reading your perspective on ED. I am stuck in the throes of BED, and I struggle with the cycle of restrict/binge/restrict/binge. I have pcos and hypothyroid. What I really want to know is how you went Paleo without feeling like you were restricting again? I find that when I remove entire food groups, I feel like I’m back to restricting. So, how do you do it? How do you get in the right headspace for it? PS – I have 30 lbs to lose. 😦

    • To be honest, Shannon, when I first started my Paleo journey, I was still in the restricting mindset. I was concerned about calorie intake, I only ate egg whites and white tuna, that sort of thing…But things changed when I a) stopped eating things that could be measured in a calorie counter and b) started eating fat.

      The cool thing about the way I eat now is that it’s NOT at all restrictive. I eat…a lot. And I eat things that I enjoy. I was very addicted to bread/grains and sugar before I changed my lifestyle, and I ended up feeling so much better without them in my life that there was never a question of needing to go back to eating them. It’s about replacing, not restricting–I eat spaghetti squash instead of spaghetti and lots and lots of veggies (cooked in delicious fats) if I want a good side dish.

      Now, that said, if you’re approaching a change in your diet from a mindset of needing to lose weight, then there’s a good chance that this is going to help feed your ED and not your body. What I’d suggest before you even start thinking about changing what’s on your plate, is that you reach out for help from a professional who can help you work through the issues surrounding your desire to restrict or binge–who you can have on hand to reach out to as you make a journey toward reclaiming your life from ED.

      That’s why I’m becoming a health coach–because part of my struggle in learning how to fill my emotional holes (the ones I’ve tried to fill with food) was that I didn’t have the support I needed. I’m so glad you reached out–and that you’re considering making a change in how you approach your mindset about food. I wish you so much luck–and please feel free to reach out to me! I’m here 🙂

  7. Thank you so much for your reply. I really appreciate your kind words. I have been to a couple different therapists, and I haven’t had any luck working with them. Either they aren’t well-versed in treating ED or they are just wacky themselves – lol. Do you have any suggestions for finding someone to work with?

    I think you’re going to make a great coach. Obviously I don’t know you, but I get a nonjudgmental and laid back vibe from your blog which is essential for making that connection with others.

    • It’s definitely rough…I had to go through a TON of different psychologists/psychiatrists before I found anyone. Partially, that was my own fault, because I just wasn’t ready to fully commit to getting better (I wanted to feel better, but I wasn’t ready to do the work).

      I’m not sure where you live, but it might be a good idea to look for something like the Eating Disorders Resource Center here in Silicon Valley (edrcsv.org), which could potentially help you narrow your search in a better, more targeted way. (This way you wouldn’t have to guess if the therapist is going to be able to support you…although I still can’t promise they won’t be wacky…in my experience, most of them are!)

      Let me know if there’s any way I can help get you in touch with the right people–feel free to send an email through the “contact” button, and I’ll do whatever I can to help 🙂

  8. Do you have or know of an online support group? I’m suffering through a cycle of restricting and overeating and I have lost myself in the process. So much depends on my physical body, I put so much pressure on myself and I’m constantly comparing my body to others and I keep coming up short and it makes me hate myself. I’m suffering in silence. Food is my best friend and my worst enemy. I don’t know what to do.

    • Hi Heather,

      I am so, so sorry to hear that you are suffering. I know how you feel, and it’s a not-so-wonderful place to be. I’m actually working on putting together an online group (way to read my mind!) because I think this is something we definitely need. In the meantime, I’d encourage you to check out my podcast, Finding Our Hunger, for a weekly dose of positivity–and please feel free to email me through the “contact” page. I’m opening my health coaching practice in 2014, but I’m always here if you need to reach out!

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